Dressing a Changing Body with Compassion, Style, and Intention

Bodies change. That’s a fact of life—but it’s not something we always want to talk about, especially when it comes to how those changes affect our relationship with clothing and personal style.

I turned 42 in May, and I’ve noticed something new this year: the soft padding that usually melts away in the spring is hanging around a little longer. On top of that, I’ve been lifting weights consistently—3 to 4 times a week—to protect my muscle mass as I age. It’s working (hello muscles in new places!), but the combo of muscle gain and a little extra softness means… my clothes fit differently.

Let’s be real: my body is bigger than it was last year.

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What Happens When Your Clothes Stop Fitting Like They Used To?

I want to be clear—this isn’t a complaint. I’m grateful for a strong, functional body. But I’m also human. And when I go to get dressed and find that many of my clothes feel too tight, I have feelings about that.

It’s especially complicated because my wardrobe isn’t made up of fast fashion. Most of my pieces are deeply personal: curated vintage, heirlooms from my grandmothers, or garments I designed and made with my own two hands. These are not easy things to replace.

In the past, this discomfort might have triggered a restrictive diet or intense fitness regimen. But after years of struggling with what was likely a clinically diagnosable eating disorder, I’m no longer willing to punish my body just to fit into old clothes. If this weight comes off, it will be slowly—and it will not come at the expense of my peace or health.

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So What Now? Style Solutions for a Changing Body

Rather than chasing my old size, I’m choosing to meet myself where I am—with intention, compassion, and creativity. I’m adding a few “bridge” pieces to my wardrobe: items that fit comfortably right now but will still work if my size shifts again.

If your body is changing and your closet feels like a minefield, here are a few ideas to make getting dressed feel less stressful:

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Forgiving (But Still Stylish) Clothing to Consider

1. Clothes with Spandex
Stretchy garments are your friend. Look for everyday clothing that contains a small percentage of spandex or elastane—not just athletic wear. Just remember: spandex wears out faster than other fibers, so wash cold, air dry, and wear mindfully.

2. Knits
Jersey knits (like T-shirt material) and sweater knits naturally allow for movement and change. For warm weather, go for knits made from linen, silk, ramie, or cotton—they’re breathable and adapt well to different body shapes.

3. Crochet
It’s trending again and easier than ever to find secondhand. Go for open-weave styles, which tend to have more give and flexibility.

4. Shirred Details
Designers are catching on: shirring (rows of stretchy gathered fabric) on the back of dresses, skirts, and tops allows one piece to fit multiple body types. Style and function in one.

5. Elastic Waistbands
It’s not a compromise—it’s a life-saver. From soft skirts to structured trousers, elasticized waists can give you freedom and ease without sacrificing style.

6. Oversized Silhouettes
Breezy dresses, wide-leg pants, and slouchy tops aren’t just on-trend—they’re perfect for hot, humid climates and changing bodies. Think comfort and chic.

7. Accessories Always Fit
Jewelry, bags, scarves, hats—these are the pieces that can elevate even the most basic outfit. When nothing else fits, a bold pair of earrings can still make you feel like yourself.

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Final Thoughts: Give Yourself a Back-Up Plan

If you’re in a body that feels unfamiliar or transitional, do yourself a kindness: invest in at least one outfit—something easy, stylish, and comfortable—that fits right now. For me, that’s often a well-cut dress I can throw on without a second thought. Having that go-to option means on hard days, I still have something that makes me feel good in my skin.

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Your Style Is Allowed to Evolve

Before I bring anything new into my closet, I like to pause and check in with how my style has evolved. I scroll through my Pinterest boards, take note of what still lights me up, and ask: is there something I’ve been dreaming about that might serve me now?

Body changes are natural. So is style evolution. Let them grow together.

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